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Earning Back Trust After Hurt - Happiness Vlog
 
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What happens if we've hurt someone we care about? X Get my 30 day happiness program here: www.30daystobehappyalways.com If you enjoyed watching this, subscribe to the channel for more inspirational videos! Sign up for my weekly inspirational emails here: http://eepurl.com/_isYz Stay connected with me on: http://www.instagram.com/xandriaooi http://www.facebook.com/xandriaooi http://www.twitter.com/xandriaooi --- To Read: Have you ever hurt someone and wish you could take it back? If there is a silver lining in having hurt someone you love - this is it: sometimes, it’s only when you’ve hurt someone that you realise how much they actually mean to you, because hurting them hurts you more. And the thought of losing them, scares you. It’s a painful lesson, but one nonetheless. But here’s the thing - no matter how deeply sorry or regretful we are, we cannot expect the people we’ve hurt to welcome us back into their lives with open arms. One someone has been hurt, it’ll be incredibly hard for that person to trust us again. And trust is such a big word, but when it comes to friendships and relationships, what it means is safety, security, love. And when we’ve hurt someone, they don’t feel safe with us guarding their backs anymore, they don’t feel secure in showing us their vulnerability. Even when they forgive us, they’ll instinctively guard their hearts against us. It takes time, and sometimes, a very long time, before the person we’ve hurt will begin to confide in us again. Before they dare show us affection or love. Before their anger - which comes from hurt - fades and they can truly believe that we will never hurt them again. That they are safe with us. We have to accept that it’s not their prerogative to forgive us. We can hope and we can keep trying to show we’re sorry, but we must do it with genuine love and with no expectations. We cannot get frustrated or impatient if the person doesn’t respond in the way we hope. “What more do you want of me?” “What else can I do?” We cannot blame someone for not forgiving us. Because a sorry, is not a sorry-until-it-gets-too-inconvenient, or sorry-until-it-gets-too-hard, but sorry-i-know-i’m-deserving-of-your-trust-again-and-im-going-to-show-that-to-you. It’s not punishment, but just the simple truth that trust that’s been broken… can only be built back again slowly, it’s like water trickling back into a dry dam, it takes time. Things might never be the same between you again, but you can build something new, something stronger, something better if possible. If someone matters to you, don’t give up, even if it seems like they have given up on you. Love will go a long way. Be consistent with your actions, kind with your words and be happy, always. ---
Views: 20741 Xandria Ooi
How To Motivate Yourself To Move  - Happiness Vlog
 
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When you have no motivation, this can help you still achieve your goals! X Get my 30 day happiness program here: www.30daystobehappyalways.com If you enjoyed watching this, subscribe to the channel for more inspirational videos! Sign up for my weekly inspirational emails here: http://eepurl.com/_isYz Stay connected with me on: http://www.instagram.com/xandriaooi http://www.facebook.com/xandriaooi http://www.twitter.com/xandriaooi
Views: 61712 Xandria Ooi
How To Let Go - Happiness Vlog
 
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The best gift we can give ourselves is true happiness; absent of anger, judgement and hatred. Here's how to let go. X Get my 30 day happiness program here: www.30daystobehappyalways.com If you enjoyed watching this, subscribe to the channel for more inspirational videos! Sign up for my weekly inspirational emails here: http://eepurl.com/_isYz Stay connected with me on: http://www.instagram.com/xandriaooi http://www.facebook.com/xandriaooi http://www.twitter.com/xandriaooi
Views: 52604 Xandria Ooi
Have Standards, Not Expectations - Happiness Vlog
 
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Not having expectations is not having no or low standards! X Get my 30 day happiness program here: www.30daystobehappyalways.com If you enjoyed watching this, subscribe to the channel for more inspirational videos! Sign up for my weekly inspirational emails here: http://eepurl.com/_isYz Stay connected with me on: http://www.instagram.com/xandriaooi http://www.facebook.com/xandriaooi http://www.twitter.com/xandriaooi
Views: 26819 Xandria Ooi
Someone Who Can Make You Happy - Happiness Vlog
 
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Someone can love us deeply yet our happiness is not something they give... or take away. Watch and let me know what you think :) X Get my 30 day happiness program here: www.30daystobehappyalways.com If you enjoyed watching this, subscribe to the channel for more inspirational videos! Sign up for my weekly inspirational emails here: http://eepurl.com/_isYz Stay connected with me on: http://www.instagram.com/xandriaooi http://www.facebook.com/xandriaooi http://www.twitter.com/xandriaooi
Views: 32004 Xandria Ooi
The Signs Of A Toxic Relationship - Happiness Vlog
 
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If someone says "I love you but..." I hope this helps. Hugs. X Get my 30 day happiness program here: www.30daystobehappyalways.com If you enjoyed watching this, subscribe to the channel for more inspirational videos! Sign up for my weekly inspirational emails here: http://eepurl.com/_isYz Stay connected with me on: http://www.instagram.com/xandriaooi http://www.facebook.com/xandriaooi http://www.twitter.com/xandriaooi --- To Read: When it comes to relationships, there seem to always be guesswork and deciphering codes as to what a person really means when they say something. Here are a few instances where you don't have to decipher or guess, because people mean exactly what they say. Instance number 1: If someone tells you that they love you but they’re not sure if they want to be in a relationship with you. they mean exactly that. they are not sure - don’t spevu;ate if there are other reasons. It hurts like hell, but If you start to wonder if there’s something wrong with you, don’t go down that road. Just take it at face value. Don’t start questioning if you’ve done something wrong or if you’re deserving of love. Instance number 2: If someone tells you that sometimes, they’re not sure if they love you. It’s the worst thing in the world to hear, and it’s cold and harsh and it hurts, but remember that, it is because THEY are not sure. It’s not that you’re unworthy of love, or that you’re difficult to love. And don’t think “If I can be better, prettier, smarter, this person will love me.” You can be perfect and this person can still have the same problem. It has nothing to do with YOU and everything to do with that person. Instance number 3: If someone tells you that they miss you, that they don’t want to lose you, that they want to spend time together but that they just can’t commit to a relationship with you for now. They’re being very honest - they’re asking your permission to allow them in your life even though they have nothing to offer in return. It’s not is not them saying, “Let me still be in your life and I might want to commit to a relationship in the future.” If you really want to decipher it, it’s just another version of them telling you ‘I want my cake and eat it too, but sometimes I might not want to eat it, but I want the option of eating it whenever I feel like it.” If we do decide to be with someone who’s anything like in the three instances mentioned, it’s not wrong and it’s not stupid, but what we DO need to acknowledge is this - there are consequences to being in a relationship with someone who’s not equally committed. There are consequences to being in a relationship that’s toxic to your mental and emotional well-being, and only YOU can decide the relationship is worth your sanity and self-worth. Remember, the most important thing is to be happy, always. ----
Views: 52978 Xandria Ooi
How To Be Non-Judgmental - Happiness Vlog
 
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We can dislike or disagree with people, yet not judge them. Here's how :) X Get my 30 day happiness program here: www.30daystobehappyalways.com If you enjoyed watching this, subscribe to the channel for more inspirational videos! Sign up for my weekly inspirational emails here: http://eepurl.com/_isYz Stay connected with me on: http://www.instagram.com/xandriaooi http://www.facebook.com/xandriaooi http://www.twitter.com/xandriaooi --- To Read: Why do we get upset with people? It is because they behave in a way that we do not expect, or show us characteristics that goes against our own values and definitions of what a good person is. We are judging them. So if we remove our judgement towards people, we will then remove the feelings of frustrations and resentment that’s so unpleasant. A very effective way to help us NOT judge people is to always remember that a person is made up of MANY more things than what we SEE in our interaction with them. For example, even if we see someone consistently behave in a terrible manner at work, we are still only seeing ONE aspect of them - at work. A person is never one dimensional, we are all multi-faceted; and we have MANY behaviours and characteristics. Even in just ONE day, we can go through so many different aspects of us - in the morning we might be grumpy, then mid-morning we might be cheerful cos we've had coffee, then we might be irritated at lunch because service was slow and we might in a bad mood in the evening because of traffic and we might be loving at night with our loved ones. WE ourselves have times where we are rude, we are arrogant, or we are inconsiderate. And anyone who crosses our paths at those times WILL NOT KNOW that we are actually a nice person - we don't get to tell them that it was just a bad day, or that we were just stressed because someone we love was sick. We don't get to tell them we sometimes behave badly because we feel insecure, how that worry about money or wonder whether we're good enough. It is not that we should have empathy for people, it is that it is hard to NOT have empathy when we get to truly know someone. It is easy to judge when we only see a little bit of people and assume we know them well. This is how we go from judging someone, to understanding that it is an act of theirs that we dislike, or a behaviour that we dislike, or a characteristic we dislike. It doesn't mean that a person is ONLY those things. It doesn't mean that the person is a hateful person. We don't judge people not because we shouldn't, but because it doesn't make sense to do it. We don't want people to judge us, because we feel they don't know our whole story. So similarly, we can extend the same courtesy to people. This way, we can interact with people whom we have a negative impression or feelings towards without hatred or discontentment, and that’s making ourselves HAPPY. So be happy, always. ----
Views: 18800 Xandria Ooi
Good, Bad, Who Knows? - Happiness Vlog
 
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When something 'bad' happens to us, can it actually be good for us? X Get my 30 day happiness program here: www.30daystobehappyalways.com If you enjoyed watching this, subscribe to the channel for more inspirational videos! Sign up for my weekly inspirational emails here: http://eepurl.com/_isYz Stay connected with me on: http://www.instagram.com/xandriaooi http://www.facebook.com/xandriaooi http://www.twitter.com/xandriaooi
Views: 20467 Xandria Ooi
The Winning Strategy To Overcome A Breakup
 
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Breakups are one of the hardest things in the world. If you or your girlfriend's going through a difficult time, I hope this helps, even if it's just the tiniest bit. Xx Get my 30 day happiness program here: www.30daystobehappyalways.com If you enjoyed watching this, subscribe to the channel for more inspirational videos! Sign up for my weekly inspirational emails here: http://eepurl.com/_isYz Stay connected with me on: http://www.instagram.com/xandriaooi http://www.facebook.com/xandriaooi http://www.twitter.com/xandriaooi
Views: 53793 Xandria Ooi
How To Be Attractive - Happiness Vlog
 
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Some people are very attractive, and it's not because of their face. Here's how attractiveness can be acquired. X Get my 30 day happiness program here: www.30daystobehappyalways.com If you enjoyed watching this, subscribe to the channel for more inspirational videos! Sign up for my weekly inspirational emails here: http://eepurl.com/_isYz Stay connected with me on: http://www.instagram.com/xandriaooi http://www.facebook.com/xandriaooi http://www.twitter.com/xandriaooi
Views: 21603 Xandria Ooi
Don't Take Things Personally - Happiness Vlog
 
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No one can offend us if we refuse to take offense. X Get my 30 day happiness program here: www.30daystobehappyalways.com If you enjoyed watching this, subscribe to the channel for more inspirational videos! Sign up for my weekly inspirational emails here: http://eepurl.com/_isYz Stay connected with me on: http://www.instagram.com/xandriaooi http://www.facebook.com/xandriaooi http://www.twitter.com/xandriaooi
Views: 24369 Xandria Ooi
How To Move On And Move Forward - Happiness Vlog
 
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When something wonderful comes to an end... here's why we must move forward X Get my 30 day happiness program here: www.30daystobehappyalways.com If you enjoyed watching this, subscribe to the channel for more inspirational videos! Sign up for my weekly inspirational emails here: http://eepurl.com/_isYz Outfit: www.lovebonito.com Makeup: klaracosmetics.com Stay connected with me on: http://www.instagram.com/xandriaooi http://www.facebook.com/xandriaooi http://www.twitter.com/xandriaooi -- To Read: When something amazing is about to end, or when it's over, don't be sad. It’s always hard to imagine how life can ever be as bright when something wonderful comes to an end, like a relationship or a phase of our life. But what we're actually afraid of isn’t that it ends, the fear comes from the thought that we'll never get the experience this sort of happiness again. It’s hard to move on, but if we see moving on as moving forward instead, it might make all the difference to how we experience the future. Whilst it is true that we will never experience the same thing again, what is just as true is that we will definitely experience that feeling of joy, happiness and contentment, many times over in our future. If, in your mind, you’re always thinking that the best is yet to come, then you’ll go through life having more and more amazing experiences. If you go through life feeling like you’ve left the best years behind, then all your experiences in the future will never be able to compare to what’s in your head. Moving on isn't something we have to do, it's something that will happen with or without our consent. LIFE moves on, and we can either let it sweep us along unwittingly, or we can decide to explore what life has in store for us by moving forward. After you’ve watched a great concert, you’re not sad that it ended, you feel thankful that you’ve had the chance to experience something so amazing. Don't wish for something wonderful you've had in the past and don't be sad that you're not experiencing the joy you once had. Every fun, every adventure and every delight that awaits us is very dependent upon whether we see the opportunity in every moment, or if we’re stuck in the past unable to be open to the new amazing things that come our way. We never know what’s around the corner, so if we don’t know, why would we want to assume the worst, why not assume the BEST? Look forward to each new day and the opportunity it brings, and decide to be happy, always! ---
Views: 22408 Xandria Ooi
I Forgive You  - Happiness Vlog
 
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It feels awful when someone has done us wrong. Here's why we should still forgive them. X Get my 30 day happiness program here: www.30daystobehappyalways.com If you enjoyed watching this, subscribe to the channel for more inspirational videos! Sign up for my weekly inspirational emails here: http://eepurl.com/_isYz Outfit: www.lovebonito.com Makeup: www.klaracosmetics.com Stay connected with me on: http://www.instagram.com/xandriaooi http://www.facebook.com/xandriaooi http://www.twitter.com/xandriaooi
Views: 24677 Xandria Ooi
The Key To Great Customer Service - Happiness Vlog
 
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It takes something simple, something that all of us have, to give GREAT customer service. X Get my 30 day happiness program here: www.30daystobehappyalways.com If you enjoyed watching this, subscribe to the channel for more inspirational videos! Sign up for my weekly inspirational emails here: http://eepurl.com/_isYz Stay connected with me on: http://www.instagram.com/xandriaooi http://www.facebook.com/xandriaooi http://www.twitter.com/xandriaooi
Views: 15867 Xandria Ooi
How To Be Nice Without Being Taken Advantage Of - Happiness Vlog
 
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Being a nice person doesn't mean people can take advantage of you. Here's why! Get my 30 day happiness program here: www.30daystobehappyalways.com If you enjoyed watching this, subscribe to the channel for more inspirational videos! Sign up for my weekly inspirational emails here: http://eepurl.com/_isYz Outfit: www.lovebonito.com Makeup: klaracosmetics.com Stay connected with me on: http://www.instagram.com/xandriaooi http://www.facebook.com/xandriaooi http://www.twitter.com/xandriaooi To Read: Are you so nice that people take advantage of you? Nice people do have people who try to take advantage of them, but the thing is, nobody can take advantage of us if we don’t let them. Being nice doesn’t mean being powerless and bullied. Being nice isn’t about having no preference or an opinion and it doesn’t mean being okay with everything. That’s not being a nice person, that’s being a robot. For example, if someone slaps you being a nice person doesn’t mean standing there and letting them slap you again. If you’re in a relationship with someone who constantly puts you down, being a nice person doesn’t mean not standing up for yourself. If you always pay for someone during meals and they never ever once offer to pay, you can choose to split the bill the next time. Being a nice person doesn’t mean feeling obliged into doing something unhappily and then complaining afterwards about people taking advantage.That’s not niceness or generosity, that’s passive-aggressiveness. It is only when we consistently let people get away with bad behaviour without addressing it that we feel being taken advantaged of. When someone at work takes advantage of us, it has very little to do with us being a nice person and very much to do with our inability to say ‘no’and to communicate why. The true problem is our mindset and our communication skills. When we feel taken advantaged of, it’s because we think we have ‘no choice’ but to keep quiet. Being nice doesn’t mean not communicating our frustration or upset. It just means communicating without negativity or losing our temper. There are many ways of saying one thing and we can choose to voice our discontentment and disagreement in a calm, rational and nice way. And we can always choose to nicely disengage or exit a toxic environment. People will only treat us badly if we let them. People will only take advantage of us if we let them. We can be a nice, a kind, warm, generous and open person without saying yes to things we’re unhappy about. Be nice and confident and smart, and be happy, always.
Views: 15064 Xandria Ooi
4 Ways To Deal With People You Don't Like - Happiness Vlog
 
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Don't like someone at work? Here are 4 possible ways you can deal with it! X Get my 30 day happiness program here: www.30daystobehappyalways.com If you enjoyed watching this, subscribe to the channel for more inspirational videos! Sign up for my weekly inspirational emails here: http://eepurl.com/_isYz Stay connected with me on: http://www.instagram.com/xandriaooi http://www.facebook.com/xandriaooi http://www.twitter.com/xandriaooi
Views: 43433 Xandria Ooi
How To Be In A Happy State of Mind - Happiness Vlog
 
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What can we do when we're feeling bad? Pretend it's not there? Or just continue feeling bad? Hope this helps! X Get my 30 day happiness program here: www.30daystobehappyalways.com If you enjoyed watching this, subscribe to the channel for more inspirational videos! Sign up for my weekly inspirational emails here: http://eepurl.com/_isYz Stay connected with me on: http://www.instagram.com/xandriaooi http://www.facebook.com/xandriaooi http://www.twitter.com/xandriaooi
Views: 16808 Xandria Ooi
The First and Easiet Step To Being More Confident - Happiness Vlog
 
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There are many things that make up confidence - this is the first and easiest step to being more confident and building a strong sense of self X Get my 30 day happiness program here: www.30daystobehappyalways.com If you enjoyed watching this, subscribe to the channel for more inspirational videos! Sign up for my weekly inspirational emails here: http://eepurl.com/_isYz Stay connected with me on: http://www.instagram.com/xandriaooi http://www.facebook.com/xandriaooi http://www.twitter.com/xandriaooi
Views: 20711 Xandria Ooi
The Smart Way To Communicate - Happiness Vlog
 
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If you try explaining something to someone a few times and they don't get it... it's time to change the way you communicate! X Get my 30 day happiness program here: www.30daystobehappyalways.com If you enjoyed watching this, subscribe to the channel for more inspirational videos! Sign up for my weekly inspirational emails here: http://eepurl.com/_isYz Stay connected with me on: http://www.instagram.com/xandriaooi http://www.facebook.com/xandriaooi http://www.twitter.com/xandriaooi
Views: 23149 Xandria Ooi
How To Achieve Your Goals - Happiness Vlog
 
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It's always easier to set a goal than it is to achieve it. Here's how to achieve any goal! X Get my 30 day happiness program here: www.30daystobehappyalways.com If you enjoyed watching this, subscribe to the channel for more inspirational videos! Sign up for my weekly inspirational emails here: http://eepurl.com/_isYz Outfit: www.lovebonito.com Makeup: klaracosmetics.com Makeup: klaracosmetics.com Stay connected with me on: http://www.instagram.com/xandriaooi http://www.facebook.com/xandriaooi http://www.twitter.com/xandriaooi --- To Read: Hi guys!!! This is video number 365. Whoohoooo! I’m celebrating because one year ago, I set myself a challenge to create videos on happiness every day for one year. And here we are. So for this 365th video, I’m going to share with you 3 things that I think is absolutely key to help you achieve any goal that you set for yourself. Number 1: You’ve got to be persistent despite emotions. Whenever we start a new project, a new job, a new goal, we’re going to be fueled by excitement and ideas. It’s very much like the excitement of staring a new relationship. What we have to know and ACCEPT is that feelings are highly reliable, one moment you’re excited, the next moment you can feel uninspired. When I first set myself the goal of making videos everyday, the biggest challenge was being persistent even when I didn’t feel like I wanted to do it. There were days where it was difficult - I didn’t feel inspired, I was tired, I didn’t feel good when there were comments from people that were unpleasant, and I had to remind myself that all that doesn’t matter, because life is about rising above our emotions to do what needs to be done. Number 2: You have to really care. If we really want to succeed, it’s not just about discipline and focus and skill. You have to really care about the value you’re providing to people. Because it is only when you care that you can create something that is authentic and serves people. When I first decided to make these videos, I had no idea if anyone was even going to watch it, much less like it, but I believed in the messages and thought to myself that even if it helps just ONE person, it was enough. I wholeheartedly believe that when we care about the process instead of being driven by results, that’s when amazing things start to happen. There may be a goal, but we have to enjoy the journey. Because that’s when we’ll care less about impressing people and that’s how we can create great & authentic ideas. Number 3: You’ve got to be determined but not hard on yourself. When we set goals for ourselves, it can be very easy to feel like we’re failing when we don’t achieve what we think we should. Being determined is important to not give up, but at the same time, we’re also human and the have to take care of ourselves. For this past year, I spent many months being very tired. I was writing, shooting and editing the videos myself for the first four months, and I was feeling exhausted from the lack of sleep. I felt anxious when I had to travel for work because I didn’t want to miss a day. It got to the point where it was also making it hard for me to be fully present when I spent time with my family. That was when I asked myself “Hang on, what is the point of me doing this?” Goals are great, but they cannot come at the expense of our health, peace and happiness. I stopped pressuring myself and enlisted help. I allowed myself to take breaks whenever I was tired or felt overwhelmed. And that was when I truly enjoyed the process again. We can all achieve anything we set our mind to, if we don’t give up and also if we’re kind to ourselves. Thank you for being part of my journey, and I’m glad to tell you that this is not the end, I will be continue to make more videos that can hopefully inspire you to live every day with joy and to be happy, always! ---
Views: 8645 Xandria Ooi
How To Create The Life You Want
 
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We can always create the life we want, and it starts with this mindset. X Get my 30 day happiness program here: www.30daystobehappyalways.com If you enjoyed watching this, subscribe to the channel for more inspirational videos! Sign up for my weekly inspirational emails here: http://eepurl.com/_isYz Stay connected with me on: http://www.instagram.com/xandriaooi http://www.facebook.com/xandriaooi http://www.twitter.com/xandriaooi
Views: 15279 Xandria Ooi
How To Not Let People's Opinion Affect Us - Happiness Vlog
 
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This is why people's opnion of you doesn't matter. X Get my 30 day happiness program here: www.30daystobehappyalways.com If you enjoyed watching this, subscribe to the channel for more inspirational videos! Sign up for my weekly inspirational emails here: http://eepurl.com/_isYz Outfit: www.lovebonito.com Makeup: klaracosmetics.com Stay connected with me on: http://www.instagram.com/xandriaooi http://www.facebook.com/xandriaooi http://www.twitter.com/xandriaooi -- To Read: Everyone has an opinion about something. This movie is good, that movie’s lousy. This cafe is great, and that cafe’s not worth visiting. This person is awesome, that person is annoying. Opinions are not absolute truths, it is merely what someone thinks. Yet whenever someone has a negative opinion about us, we find it so difficult to not take it personally. Even if our business has a 100 great reviews, the moment 1 bad review comes in… that’s all we can focus on. The one bad review bugs us or the rest of the day, or the week. It is almost part of our DNA to want to suffer, because even if there’s one tiny flaw in the an almost-perfect picture, we agonise over it. Even if we have a hundred friends who think we’re awesome, we feel the need to defend ourselves towards the one person who thinks we’re not. This is why when people say things about us, we get so affected. Some of us pretend to not care, but deep inside we wish the person harm, or we develop an intense dislike for them. If someone has a problem with you, the question to ask is, “Does what the person say have any validity?” “Did I behave in a rude, inconsiderate or annoying manner towards them, or is it simply the person’s opinion of me?” If we did do something that might offend someone, maybe it is a problem we do have, and we can try to be aware to not repeat the same behaviour again. But if you are sure you did absolutely nothing, and they dislike you just for BEING you, then the person has a problem with you. It’s clearly their problem. If you take offense, get defensive or react in an angry manner, you're making their problem into your problem. And why would you want to do that?? If someone calls you stupid, you stop and examine if you really are stupid. If you've determined that you’re not, then it's just the person’s opinion, and their opinion is made up of what’s in their head, not made up of the truth. Everyone has an opinion about something, and there is absolutely no way that everyone’s going to have the same opinion about you. So live your life being awesome, let people think what they want, and just be happy, always. ---
Views: 5914 Xandria Ooi
How To Deal With Negative Comments - Happiness Vlog
 
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Sometimes, people make nasty comments. Here are 3 ways to not let criticisms affect us! X Get my 30 day happiness program here: www.30daystobehappyalways.com If you enjoyed watching this, subscribe to the channel for more inspirational videos! Sign up for my weekly inspirational emails here: http://eepurl.com/_isYz Stay connected with me on: http://www.instagram.com/xandriaooi http://www.facebook.com/xandriaooi http://www.twitter.com/xandriaooi -- To Read: Sometimes, people say the darnest things. “You suck”, “I hate you”, “You’re ugly”, “You’re fat”, “You’re stupid”. It happens in real life, and it happens on the internet. Here are 3 ways to stop letting negative comments affect us! 1. Words will never hurt us… if we don’t let it. Some people are genuinely considerate with their honesty and some are just unnecessarily brutal. Whichever the manner criticism is delivered, it is OUR choice of whether it affects us negatively. If a comment is delivered with malice and snide, we can let it glide past us by focusing on the fact that the comment was not for us. It was for the person saying it, because they needed to say it to feel better about themselves. It has nothing to do with us. 2. Know the difference between a criticism and an opinion. If someone random or an acquaintance says something about our character, it is not a criticism; it is an opinion. Criticisms come from people who know us and whom we respect and care about. So the next time someone you don’t know makes sharp or brutal comments, it is their opinion and does not reflect on who you are. Everyone’s entitled to their opinions. It is only the opinion of people who care about us that matter. 3. Don’t make something false the truth. If we think something is not the truth, then why react to it? If we react to it, it means we are acknowledging it as the truth. When someone is being nasty, don’t feel offended or upset, because that would give the words power. A criticism is just a string of words someone is saying to us and will only manifest as a criticism if we acknowledge it so. If it helps, visualise the comment coming towards you but just gliding away without actually touching you. One of the most important things to remember is this: never respond to harmful or toxic comments, no matter how tempting. And don’t return hate with hate, because that reflects on us. Don’t acknowledge rude comments and they’ll have no power. People can hate, but we can be happy, always! ----
Views: 11879 Xandria Ooi
How To Influence Your Partner To Change - Happiness Vlog
 
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Don't force someone to change. Here's how to influence someone to change through acceptance. X Get my 30 day happiness program here: www.30daystobehappyalways.com If you enjoyed watching this, subscribe to the channel for more inspirational videos! Sign up for my weekly inspirational emails here: http://eepurl.com/_isYz Stay connected with me on: http://www.instagram.com/xandriaooi http://www.facebook.com/xandriaooi http://www.twitter.com/xandriaooi
Views: 19554 Xandria Ooi
3 Reasons Why Smiling More Pays Off - Happiness Vlog
 
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If you've ever needed a reason to smile... or tell a friend to smile more, watch this! ;) X Get my 30 day happiness program here: www.30daystobehappyalways.com If you enjoyed watching this, subscribe to the channel for more inspirational videos! Sign up for my weekly inspirational emails here: http://eepurl.com/_isYz Stay connected with me on: http://www.instagram.com/xandriaooi http://www.facebook.com/xandriaooi http://www.twitter.com/xandriaooi
Views: 13412 Xandria Ooi
Why It Pays to Work Hard - Happiness Vlog
 
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We work to be able to afford necessities and the luxuries in life. But money should also dictate whether we take a job, not how good a job we do once we've taken it. Striving to do our best is linked to how we think rather than how much we're paid. Get my 30 day happiness program here: www.30daystobehappyalways.com If you enjoyed watching this, subscribe to the channel for more inspirational videos! Sign up for my weekly inspirational emails here: http://eepurl.com/_isYz Stay connected with me on: http://www.instagram.com/xandriaooi http://www.facebook.com/xandriaooi http://www.twitter.com/xandriaooi
Views: 30183 Xandria Ooi
Should I Stay, Or Should I Leave? - Happiness Vlog
 
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How do you know if someone is worth staying with? Here's what to think about X Get my 30 day happiness program here: www.30daystobehappyalways.com If you enjoyed watching this, subscribe to the channel for more inspirational videos! Sign up for my weekly inspirational emails here: http://eepurl.com/_isYz Outfit: www.lovebonito.com Makeup: klaracosmetics.com Stay connected with me on: http://www.instagram.com/xandriaooi http://www.facebook.com/xandriaooi http://www.twitter.com/xandriaooi -- To Read: How do you know if someone is worth staying with? Sometimes, we’re sure that we’re with the right person, and other times we’re convinced that there's no future. We may even have gone through many phases of breaking up and getting back together again. Some people believe in soulmates, and some believe that love is a decision. Whichever the case, we all know that there is no such thing as a perfect relationship. We can’t spend our lives wondering if there’s someone better around the corner, because the fact is that there is no escaping the trials and tribulations of a relationship, regardless of who we’re with. But at the same time, we also have to be really honest with ourselves to examine if perhaps the person isn’t someone we want to be spend the rest of our lives with. What is our gut telling us, and what is it saying? We may love someone, but why are we in the relationship? Most of us, on some level, are afraid of being alone. We would prefer to be with a life partner, a companion, a friend, a lover. But having a preference doesn’t mean that we are not capable of being happy alone. All of us are here for a reason, and we all have the strength and ability to be happy with or without a partner. No one can make us as happy as much as we can make ourselves happy. Is this a relationship you want to stay in because you know you can work at it, and more than that, that you want to work on it? Don’t be with someone you can’t live without, be with the person you don’t WANT to live without. If we can feel a 100% okay being alone, even if it’s for the rest of our lives, then we know that if we’re in a relationship, it’s because we want to be there. It’s a small, but very discernible difference. We can’t know or control the future, but what we do know is that as long as we are aware and responsible for our decisions, then what is meant to happen will happen. Love well, but live well, and be happy, always! ---
Views: 16130 Xandria Ooi
Don't Give Up On Life - Happiness Vlog
 
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Everyone is fighting a battle we know nothing about. Be kind, for your words may be a reminder of why life is worth living. XO ✨How to live with joy, one day at a time: www.30daystobehappyalways.com If you enjoyed watching this, subscribe to the channel for more inspirational videos! Get the best inspiration, motivation and advice delivered straight to your inbox at http://eepurl.com/_isYz FOLLOW ME AT: Facebook: www.facebook.com/xandriaooi Instagram: www.instagram.com/xandriaooi Twitter: www.twitter.com/xandriaooi Outfit: www.lovebonito.com Makeup: klaracosmetics.com -- To Read: The world is filled with close to 8 billion people, so why is it that we can feel so frighteningly alone? We have people who love us, so why is it that we can feel so desperately lost? Our mind knows one thing, but our heart can feel something completely different.  This is why we can be incredibly intelligent and vastly successful yet feel like a complete failure. What we feel is rarely logical - it comes from a place where the inner voice of our mind tells us that our life isn’t worth all that much. When we feel like our life isn't worth living, it isn't something that is usually reflected on the outside.  The joyous moments of our life that people see are often real - because the emotion of happiness does come - but there are many facets to a person, and people don’t get to see all the other parts of our story. The pain, suffering and desperation is just ever-present, and then it gets too much. Family, friends and fans - we can have so much love support around us yet we feel like they don’t really know us. We feel like nobody understands the complicated inner world of our mind, but the absolute truth of the universe is that we are never alone in our emotions. What we experience is what someone else is experiencing. We think no one understands, but there are people who do, because they feel it too. When we feel more hopelessness than hope, when we feel close to giving up... we must remember that there are reasons to continue living but that we just can't find any at the moment, and we need to reach out to people who can help us remember. When we are suffering, it is easy for us all to forget how precious our life is. Be the reminder that people need. Be patient and thoughtful to those you love, to people you just met and even to people you don’t like. Maybe we won’t be able to help, but maybe your small gestures or words, in the moment when someone feels the most desperate, become the reminder to them that life is worth living. True happiness is contentment in the face of everything that goes on in life. That’s what it means to be happy, always.   ---
Views: 8673 Xandria Ooi
When People Let You Down  - Happiness Vlog
 
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No one is obliged to us, even if they've made promises. X Get my 30 day happiness program here: www.30daystobehappyalways.com If you enjoyed watching this, subscribe to the channel for more inspirational videos! Sign up for my weekly inspirational emails here: http://eepurl.com/_isYz Stay connected with me on: http://www.instagram.com/xandriaooi http://www.facebook.com/xandriaooi http://www.twitter.com/xandriaooi
Views: 16491 Xandria Ooi
Unrequited Love - Happiness Vlog
 
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We can care so deeply about someone that it hurts when they don't feel the same. Here's what can help X Get my 30 day happiness program here: www.30daystobehappyalways.com If you enjoyed watching this, subscribe to the channel for more inspirational videos! Sign up for my weekly inspirational emails here: http://eepurl.com/_isYz Stay connected with me on: http://www.instagram.com/xandriaooi http://www.facebook.com/xandriaooi http://www.twitter.com/xandriaooi
Views: 12999 Xandria Ooi
Put Yourself First - Happiness Vlog
 
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Loving yourself isn't corny and putting yourself first isn't selfish. X Get my 30 day happiness program here: www.30daystobehappyalways.com If you enjoyed watching this, subscribe to the channel for more inspirational videos! Sign up for my weekly inspirational emails here: http://eepurl.com/_isYz Stay connected with me on: http://www.instagram.com/xandriaooi http://www.facebook.com/xandriaooi http://www.twitter.com/xandriaooi
Views: 27926 Xandria Ooi
How To Communicate Without Arguing - Happiness Vlog
 
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We can disagree without arguing, especially in relationships. X Get my 30 day happiness program here: www.30daystobehappyalways.com If you enjoyed watching this, subscribe to the channel for more inspirational videos! Sign up for my weekly inspirational emails here: http://eepurl.com/_isYz Stay connected with me on: http://www.instagram.com/xandriaooi http://www.facebook.com/xandriaooi http://www.twitter.com/xandriaooi
Views: 15942 Xandria Ooi
3 Ways To Deal When You Don't Like Your Job - Happiness Vlog
 
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If you dread going to work each day... or if your friend is miserable at work, I hope this helps! Xx Get my 30 day happiness program here: www.30daystobehappyalways.com If you enjoyed watching this, subscribe to the channel for more inspirational videos! Sign up for my weekly inspirational emails here: http://eepurl.com/_isYz Stay connected with me on: http://www.instagram.com/xandriaooi http://www.facebook.com/xandriaooi http://www.twitter.com/xandriaooi
Views: 14815 Xandria Ooi
Don't Worry About What People Think - Happiness Vlog
 
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Here's why we really shouldn't worry about 'what people think'. X Get my 30 day happiness program here: www.30daystobehappyalways.com If you enjoyed watching this, subscribe to the channel for more inspirational videos! Sign up for my weekly inspirational emails here: http://eepurl.com/_isYz Stay connected with me on: http://www.instagram.com/xandriaooi http://www.facebook.com/xandriaooi http://www.twitter.com/xandriaooi
Views: 23838 Xandria Ooi
How To Be The Confident You
 
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Sometimes, we're not as confident as we'd like to be in certain situations. Here's how to change that xx Get my 30 day happiness program here: www.30daystobehappyalways.com If you enjoyed watching this, subscribe to the channel for more inspirational videos! Sign up for my weekly inspirational emails here: http://eepurl.com/_isYz Stay connected with me on: http://www.instagram.com/xandriaooi http://www.facebook.com/xandriaooi http://www.twitter.com/xandriaooi
Views: 11330 Xandria Ooi
What To Do When People Make Our Life Difficult - Happiness Vlog
 
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People's actions can affect our happiness. Here's how to manage that. X Get my 30 day happiness program here: www.30daystobehappyalways.com If you enjoyed watching this, subscribe to the channel for more inspirational videos! Sign up for my weekly inspirational emails here: http://eepurl.com/_isYz Stay connected with me on: http://www.instagram.com/xandriaooi http://www.facebook.com/xandriaooi http://www.twitter.com/xandriaooi
Views: 12020 Xandria Ooi
How To Move Past Regretful Mistakes - Happiness Vlog
 
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We cannot erase mistakes or memories... but here's how to move past the pain and regret X Get my 30 day happiness program here: www.30daystobehappyalways.com If you enjoyed watching this, subscribe to the channel for more inspirational videos! Sign up for my weekly inspirational emails here: http://eepurl.com/_isYz Outfit: www.lovebonito.com Makeup: klaracosmetics.com Stay connected with me on: http://www.instagram.com/xandriaooi http://www.facebook.com/xandriaooi http://www.twitter.com/xandriaooi --- To Read: We all make mistakes. Some of us have done things we’re not proud of or regret. Maybe we were young and foolish, maybe we were just foolish, but whichever the case, what we were does not matter as much as what we are right now. There are two main things about mistakes that make it so hard to get over, one of them is paying or suffering the consequences of our mistakes, and the other is the memory of the mistake. We cannot avoid consequences, and we cannot erase memory. This makes mistakes painful, because even if we understand that mistakes are part of life, it’s what happens after our mistakes that can keep haunting us. It’s easier said than done to just forget about our mistakes and move on. So instead of just trying to forget about something in our past, we can move on by having more and more of other experiences that are different, other experiences that provide a contrast to the unpleasant experience we’ve had before. Whatever mistakes we’ve made in the past, we cannot run from it and we have to bear the consequences, but we can diminish the impact of those past experiences by creating new experiences that we’re proud of. Experiences that showcase who we are today, not who were in the past. It’s incredibly human to make mistakes, and it’s especially human to go through the pain of mistakes. The best thing about life though, is that the path ahead of us has yet to be charted, and walking that path is what being alive is all about. We create our own experiences, and even the ones we regret are ones we can be grateful for, because they highlight what we want less of in life, so that we know to adjust and evolve to become the kind of person we want to be. Don’t try to forget your mistakes. Embrace them as part of who you were, and now move forward by being who you want to be, and learn how to be happy, always. --- Stay connected with me on: http://www.instagram.com/xandriaooi http://www.facebook.com/xandriaooi http://www.twitter.com/xandriaooi
Views: 6918 Xandria Ooi
The 3 Ways To Be Truly Confident - Happiness Vlog
 
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Be truly confident on the inside, not just on the outside. Here's how Xo Get my 30 day happiness program here: www.30daystobehappyalways.com If you enjoyed watching this, subscribe to the channel for more inspirational videos! Sign up for my weekly inspirational emails here: http://eepurl.com/_isYz Outfit: www.lovebonito.com Makeup: klaracosmetics.com Stay connected with me on: http://www.instagram.com/xandriaooi http://www.facebook.com/xandriaooi http://www.twitter.com/xandriaooi --- To Read: There are some things in life that we want to be and being confident is one of them. The thing is, we can be confident on the outside but don’t feel good about ourselves on the inside. Feeling good on the inside requires more than just being confident, it’s about having a strong self-esteem. And our self-esteem is made up of our emotional evaluation of our worth. It’s our judgement and attitude towards ourselves. There are 3 things we need to do to develop a strong self-esteem and inner confidence. Number 1: Believe that you are enough. Growing up we’re used to the concept of rewards when we do something right and punishments when we do something wrong. So it’s easy to adopt this same system as adults. We feel like we have to be better in order to be worthy. And we assume that thinking this way is a sign of self-awareness, but actually, it’s a sign of a lack of self-love. When we don’t believe that we are enough, we’ll continue heaping expectations and conditions upon ourselves so that we feel deserving of love, respect and acceptance. Number 2: Understand that self-criticism is not self-improvement. Somehow, we’re used to this concept that when we criticise someone they’ll improve. And even when we don’t criticise people, we’ll criticise ourselves. Self-criticism is a way of knowing our weaknesses but it isn’t a healthy way. Any critical thought we have of ourselves erodes our self-esteem instead of building it. It is entirely possible to work on ourselves without being harsh on ourselves. We grow better with encouragement, not criticism and we need to apply that to ourselves. It’s, “Oh no I made a mistake… I wish I hadn’t, but I’ll take it as a learning experience.” Not “Oh no I made a mistake, I’m always f***ing up!” Number 3:Don’t judge others or compare yourself. Being judgemental of other people can be a very subconscious thinglike having higher respect for people whom we deem are ‘more worthy’. If we think this way, then we ourselves will feel like we’re not worthy unless we achieve something significant. If we think that good-looking or successful people deserves special treatment then we won’t know how to be nice to ourselves when we’re feeling down. Because we think we’re not special. There are people who are higher in status than us but that’s on the outside. On the inside, we’re all equal in our humanity. Not judging others helps us to stop comparing ourselves to other people because we genuinely believe that everyone is equal and no one is ‘more worthy’. When we have a strong self-esteem, we can feel not very confident in certain situations yet never question our self-worth. And this helps us to not react or behave in ways just to get attention, respect or acceptance and more opportunities will open up to us because people naturally gravitate towards other people who are comfortable in their own skin. It is always with a strong self-esteem that we’re able to build healthy relationships and experience amazing successes in life. So be more than just confident - Accept and love yourself and that is truly being able to be happy, always! ---
Views: 13494 Xandria Ooi
3 Valuable Attitudes At Work - Happiness Vlog
 
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We can be qualified for the job, but it's our attitude that makes us outstanding. Watch this X Get my 30 day happiness program here: www.30daystobehappyalways.com If you enjoyed watching this, subscribe to the channel for more inspirational videos! Sign up for my weekly inspirational emails here: http://eepurl.com/_isYz Outfit: www.lovebonito.com Makeup: klaracosmetics.com Stay connected with me on: http://www.instagram.com/xandriaooi http://www.facebook.com/xandriaooi http://www.twitter.com/xandriaooi --- To Read: School is important, but what you learn at home and outside of school is equally important. Here are 3 attitudes at work that matters as much, if not more, than your skills. Attitude number 1: Reliability Can you be depended upon? Or will you at the last minute, let people down? Do you meet deadlines, or do you always have excuses? You can be a sweet person, or a charming person, or even a very skilled person, but if you cannot be relied upon, your overall value as a contributing member of the team is not very high, because nobody likes working with people who can let them down. The moment someone more reliable comes along, you can be easily replaced. Attitude number 2: Initiative Do you think a few steps ahead? Do you observe, problem solve and take action? Or will you be calculative and feel taken advantaged of to do even a bit more? Doing a job well isn't just ticking your job description boxes, doing a job well includes having the foresight to observe and pre-empt, to do something without being asked. When you have initiative, you are less focused on "Oh that's not my job" and more on "how can I contribute to make this even better?” Attitude Number 3: Emotional Maturity Are you calm and rational? Can you manage difficult situations and communicate well? Or are you sensitive? Defensive? Prone to tempers or moodiness? Everybody has negative emotions, but if we're emotionally matured, we will be able to process the consequences of our actions before we react. It means that you have the vision and the wisdom to SEE many steps ahead, to make decisions that are best for the long-term. People can be smart, but without emotional maturity, they're rarely wise. Your skills will determine what you’re able to do, but it’s your attitude that will determine how well you do them. So fulfil your potential by having a great attitude, and no matter where you work or what you do; you'll have the ability to be happy, always. ----
Views: 6771 Xandria Ooi
The Confident Way To Defend Yourself
 
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Be calm in the face of a storm. Here's the confident person's way of solving problems. X Get my 30 day happiness program here: www.30daystobehappyalways.com If you enjoyed watching this, subscribe to the channel for more inspirational videos! Sign up for my weekly inspirational emails here: http://eepurl.com/_isYz Stay connected with me on: http://www.instagram.com/xandriaooi http://www.facebook.com/xandriaooi http://www.twitter.com/xandriaooi
Views: 20250 Xandria Ooi
Knowing How To Love Someone - Happiness Vlog
 
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When our partner doesn't give us what we'd like in a relationship, what does it mean? X Get my 30 day happiness program here: www.30daystobehappyalways.com If you enjoyed watching this, subscribe to the channel for more inspirational videos! Sign up for my weekly inspirational emails here: http://eepurl.com/_isYz Stay connected with me on: http://www.instagram.com/xandriaooi http://www.facebook.com/xandriaooi http://www.twitter.com/xandriaooi
Views: 26410 Xandria Ooi
3 Reasons Why Kids Become Confident Adults - Happiness Vlog
 
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So much of what makes us so confident (or not) as adults is hugely influenced by how our parents brought us up. And knowing this affects our actions when we become parents ourselves. X Get my 30 day happiness program here: www.30daystobehappyalways.com If you enjoyed watching this, subscribe to the channel for more inspirational videos! Sign up for my weekly inspirational emails here: http://eepurl.com/_isYz Stay connected with me on: http://www.instagram.com/xandriaooi http://www.facebook.com/xandriaooi http://www.twitter.com/xandriaooi
Views: 8484 Xandria Ooi
How To Forgive Someone Who Hurt You - Happiness Vlog
 
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How can we forgive someone after they've broken our trust? Watch this. XO Learn how to create positive change and be the best version of yourself with my 30 day happiness program!: www.30daystobehappyalways.com If you enjoyed watching this, subscribe to the channel for more inspirational videos! Sign up for my weekly inspirational emails here: http://eepurl.com/_isYz Outfit: www.lovebonito.com Makeup: klaracosmetics.com Stay connected with me on: http://www.instagram.com/xandriaooi http://www.facebook.com/xandriaooi http://www.twitter.com/xandriaooi --- To Read: Forgiveness in a relationship. How can we forgive someone who has hurt us so deeply? The thing is, how can we not forgive? If we’ve decided to still be in a relationship with someone who has hurt us, if we’ve made a choice to stay on and continue to be with them… it has to be a fresh start. It’s so much harder than it sounds, but truly forgiving someone isn’t a favour we’re doing for the other person. Emotionally, it feels like we’re letting the person off too easily if we just forgive them, but in reality, we’re letting ourselves off the hook. Why do we want to suffer even more by holding on to the anger and resentment? That every time we look at the person we feel this rage? Sometimes, even when we want to continue to be in a relationship with someone who’s hurt us badly, we want them to suffer, to pay a penance for having done what they did. But whilst punishing someone may inflict pain on the person, it also takes a toll on our own mental and emotional health. And ultimately, it doesn’t help resolve problems in the relationship, it just makes it more and more fragile. Forgiving someone doesn’t mean we allow them to treat us badly, and letting go isn’t giving permission for them to hurt us again. Because logically, when there is a problem in our relationship, we have to be able to address it. To talk, to communicate, to be honest with our feelings and the time it would take to fully trust them again. Letting go of the anger and resentment doesn’t mean that it will erase the hurt, but it will allow us to drive our present and our future whilst nothing can change the past. Even when we’re in a committed relationship, it does pay to ask ourselves often if we want to be in it, if we want to be with this person. Because the answer helps us take responsibility for what we want, and it helps us move forward and be happy, always. ---
Views: 6267 Xandria Ooi
Living With Depression  - Happiness Vlog
 
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Suffering depression doesn't mean something is wrong with you, or that you're weak. Watch this X Get my 30 day happiness program here: www.30daystobehappyalways.com If you enjoyed watching this, subscribe to the channel for more inspirational videos! Sign up for my weekly inspirational emails here: http://eepurl.com/_isYz Outfit: www.lovebonito.com Makeup: klaracosmetics.com Stay connected with me on: http://www.instagram.com/xandriaooi http://www.facebook.com/xandriaooi http://www.twitter.com/xandriaooi --- To Read: You may look the same as everyone else, you may laugh the same, talk the same and act the same, but inside, you know you’re not the same, because inside, it’s a struggle, all the time and every time. When we’re physically injured, everyone can see it, and most people will even have sympathy for it, like when we have a broken arm or leg. But when we’re mentally hurt, it’s something that people cannot see, and because people cannot see it, it’s so much harder to actually explain and justify, even to ourselves. No one thinks they’re not normal when they have a fever, but we’ll ask ourselves if we’re not normal to be feeling depressed. And we don’t want to be not normal, so we can become quite good at acting normal. So much so that there can be two versions of you - a version that everyone sees, and a version that only you see. But the truth is that there is only one us, and the other version, the happy, friendly, funny version, may be us with a mask on. And we’re not even pretending, because we want to be that person, and if we try hard enough, maybe we’ll become that person. But wearing a mask isn’t comfortable, it’s tiring and it’s heavy. And the desperation comes when we want so badly to take it off yet we feel that we will crumble to ashes without it, and so we might feel that there’s only one real choice we can make, and that’s to end it. To stop living. And this is where you have to know that your depression is not your identity, that even as you feel consumed by it, that it’s not you, it’s just a part of you. Being depressed isn’t something to be ashamed of, it’s not something that people can judge because they’re not in your head. No matter how dark the days get, no matter how difficult it is to just get through another day, remember that it’s not that you’re weak, it’s just that you’re human, and human beings have to face and resolve many, many issues in life, and sometimes we even have to live with issues we cannot solve. The solution to any problem, including physical and mental pain, doesn’t come from hating ourselves, or hating our own lives. Help never centres around hate, but around hope. We have to find our own hope to live, and really focus on that hope. We need to always remember that even if it seems like no one cares, people care. So many people care, and we have to have hope for our happiness, even if they come in small bits and bursts, because happiness isn’t something to aspire towards, it’s something we can appreciate when it comes, and that’s what we need to remember on the days where it’s difficult to be happy, always. ---
Views: 9737 Xandria Ooi
Choosing The Perfect Life Partner - Happiness Vlog
 
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How do you know if someone is 'The One'? X Get my 30 day happiness program here: www.30daystobehappyalways.com If you enjoyed watching this, subscribe to the channel for more inspirational videos! Sign up for my weekly inspirational emails here: http://eepurl.com/_isYz Stay connected with me on: http://www.instagram.com/xandriaooi http://www.facebook.com/xandriaooi http://www.twitter.com/xandriaooi --- To Read: How do you know if the person you’re dating is THE ONE? That’s the question that we wonder about, but really, it’s more a question of ‘How do we decide if he’ or she the one?” The difference between the two questions is that the first is laced with a bit (or a lot) of fear of marrying the wrong person, that there may be someone out there who’s more right for us; whilst the second question is filled with the clarity that every single relationship is perfect at the beginning, and that the ending is up to us to decide. We change so much from year to year - from the way we see the world, to our opinions, our faith,… even our taste in food changes. How many of us find ourselves suddenly loving a kind food that we previously would not even touch? When you’re twenty, a particular person is right for you. When you’re forty, someone else may share more similar interests with you. When you’re sixty, you might prefer to the company of a particular type of person. There is no, one, THE ONE in this world, because we grow and change so much over time that depending on when we fall in love, there will be different people who are ‘right’ for us. This doesn’t mean we can’t ever get married, but to understand that if we are happy in our current relationship, if we love our partner and know without a shred of doubt that they love, treasure and respect us - then we can always choose to grow together so that even with the passing of time, we remain right for each other. Unlike the movies, ’happily ever after’ is not the end, it’s a journey. And the journey isn’t easy, but whether or not the story has a happy ending is completely up to us and not something that fate decides. Love and happiness is always a choice, so choose to work at love, and at being happy, always! ----
Views: 13790 Xandria Ooi
How To Take Control Of Your Life -  Happiness Vlog
 
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How much control do you think you have over your life? X Get my 30 day happiness program here: www.30daystobehappyalways.com If you enjoyed watching this, subscribe to the channel for more inspirational videos! Sign up for my weekly inspirational emails here: http://eepurl.com/_isYz Stay connected with me on: http://www.instagram.com/xandriaooi http://www.facebook.com/xandriaooi http://www.twitter.com/xandriaooi
Views: 6146 Xandria Ooi
What Is Success? - Happiness Vlog
 
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Some of us have dreams, and some of us... don't. Our success can be fully independent of either one of them. X Get my 30 day happiness program here: www.30daystobehappyalways.com If you enjoyed watching this, subscribe to the channel for more inspirational videos! Sign up for my weekly inspirational emails here: http://eepurl.com/_isYz Stay connected with me on: http://www.instagram.com/xandriaooi http://www.facebook.com/xandriaooi http://www.twitter.com/xandriaooi
Views: 13052 Xandria Ooi
How To Admire People Without Envy - Happiness Vlog
 
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It's hard not to compare ourselves to other people, but if we can separate admiration from envy, we wouldn't be comparing - we'd be inspired. X Get my 30 day happiness program here: www.30daystobehappyalways.com If you enjoyed watching this, subscribe to the channel for more inspirational videos! Sign up for my weekly inspirational emails here: http://eepurl.com/_isYz Stay connected with me on: http://www.instagram.com/xandriaooi http://www.facebook.com/xandriaooi http://www.twitter.com/xandriaooi --- To Read: So many of us worry about not being good enough. Yet so many of us don’t really worry about being better. There is a difference between the two: when we worry about not being good enough - not smart enough, nor pretty enough - we are comparing ourselves to people. When we’re focusing on being better - we’re comparing ourselves… with us. When we worry about not being good enough, we feel all this pressure to be perfect and it stresses us out, makes us less confident. When we’re focusing on being better, there’s no pressure to be perfect because you know your standards aren’t measured by perfection but progress. We’re looking at our own benchmarks and we’re just charting how much progress we’ve made and. not looking at other people charting what progress they’ve made and how we are compare to them! When we’re comparing ourselves to people, we’re wasting so much energy and resources into looking at the ‘competition’, energy and resources that could have gone into making ourselves better. Role models are amazing, they inspire us in the way they live, the way they look or what they’ve achieved. But it’s completely possible to have admiration without envy. Admiration is looking at someone and thinking “I want to be like that. I can be like that”. Envy, is looking at someone and thinking, “He or she is too awesome, I can never be like that.” One gives you hope, and the other is you battering your own confidence. Envy leads to jealousy, which in a way is a self-fulfilling prophecy of what you think you can never be. But admiration leads to action, with you taking control of the fact that your life is up to you to shape. It’s knowing that you can emulate the traits of the people you admire, but you don’t need to BE that person. Because you’re you, and as cheesy as it sounds, you are unique. There will always be people better than you are, more privileged you are or have better circumstances than you, just like there will always be people who are worse off than you are, are less privileged and have worse circumstances. Don’t envy people, because it only makes us a victim of circumstance. Admire people because it empowers us to be whoever we want to be despite our circumstance. Choose the path that makes you feel most grateful, and be happy, always. ---
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Why Being Vulnerable Is Attractive - Happiness Vlog
 
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Nobody likes to be vulnerable, yet vulnerability is very attractive. X Get my 30 day happiness program here: www.30daystobehappyalways.com If you enjoyed watching this, subscribe to the channel for more inspirational videos! Sign up for my weekly inspirational emails here: http://eepurl.com/_isYz Stay connected with me on: http://www.instagram.com/xandriaooi http://www.facebook.com/xandriaooi http://www.twitter.com/xandriaooi
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Be The Best Version Of Yourself - Happiness Vlog
 
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Instead of 'being yourself', be the 'best version of yourself'! X Get my 30 day happiness program here: www.30daystobehappyalways.com If you enjoyed watching this, subscribe to the channel for more inspirational videos! Sign up for my weekly inspirational emails here: http://eepurl.com/_isYz Stay connected with me on: http://www.instagram.com/xandriaooi http://www.facebook.com/xandriaooi http://www.twitter.com/xandriaooi
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